Men are not all that complex in what their needs, but
those needs are very intense. Almost all male needs
are egocentric, meaning he is the center of his universe
and the relationship. Males need a constant validation
and support of his power. He communicates physically, through deeds, accomplishments and declarations.
He wants help primarily only when he asks for it, less
He wants help primarily only when he asks for it, less
he be thought unworthy, and or weak. Children and his
mate/wife are on the periphery to support his success.
His partner is his support, not his equal. His image is
most important.
Men feel their stature and power being whittled away
Men feel their stature and power being whittled away
by social change.This goes way back biologically on
the evolutionary track, with the strongest male animals becoming king of the mountain or pack-tending to the procreation and the regeneration of him through his
progeny. His strength/status and his image are of un-
most importance if he is to have any change at all of
obtaining and keeping a mate and propagating on his
species.
most importance if he is to have any change at all of
obtaining and keeping a mate and propagating on his
species.
Many men have evolved socially, expanding their needs
to include allowing a spouse or partner to relieve some
of his burden. He may even participate in relieving some
of hers. Faithfulness, knowledge that woman he loves
will never sell him out. Support and submission: it make
assurance that his wife will follow his lead without any questioning every decision he makes, especially in crises.
Encouragement, sympathy, faith support, understanding
in good times, but even more in bad times. Importance:
status and value in giving advice in making plans. Respect, feeling that he is held in high esteem, privately and publicly.
A completer, someone to give him input for his decisions,
quiet admonishment about his flesh patterns, and spiritual
and moral support. A partner, someone with whom to share
all his life, for life. Manly time, time to be alone and do what
he wants, time to do some male bonding in sporting or may social endeavors with men without his wife's presence, time
to be free of responsibilities... some time to escape.
Sex, a man needs a partner who realizes that men and
women usually have different sexual desires and needs,
is willing to attend to his sexual needs, not just hers, lets
him fantasize and not be jealous about his fantasies or self-explorations, and does not use the denial of sex as retaliation for some misdeed.
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